How to Ask Your Crush for His Cell Phone Number

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You're sitting in class next to your crush, and no one is doing much of anything. It's the perfect opportunity for you to ask for his cell phone number! But wait, how will you do it!

Steps

There are two methods you can choose:

The Subtle, Casual Method

1. Start a conversation with your crush about five minutes before your class is about to end. Talk about something he likes - TV shows, movies, sports, his hobbies, etc. Make sure to be calm and casual, yet still appear interested.
   
2. A minute or so before the bell rings, look at the clock and say, "Oh man, class is almost over! Here, give me your number and I'll call you later." Don't be frantic and crazy when you say this. Remain serene as if you do this all the time.
   
3. If he refuses, just casually shake it off and say, "Oh, okay. We can just talk in person tomorrow!" Don't let it get to you if he says no. Some guys just aren't comfortable with that. However, if he says no, wait a while before you try asking again... Otherwise, he'll catch on.
   
4. If he says yes and gives it to you, then don't go crazy right there. Just say thanks and smile for now. You can get excited later!
   

The Flat-Out Method
(this should only be used if you are already pretty good friends or if you are a bold person)

1. Go up to your crush and just ask him for his number, saying something like, "Hey, I was going through my contacts last night, and I realized that I don't have your number!" or, "Oh my gosh, I totally need your number!"
   
2. Once again, if he says no, just shake it off and keep going. If he says yes, wait until he's gone to get excited.
   

Tips

• Get to know your crush a little bit before you ask him for his number. Just asking him could freak him out a little bit.
  
• Be confident! Even if he says no, don't let it get to you! It doesn't always mean that he doesn't like you.
  

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How to Get Over a Relationship in Less Than a Week

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If you want to know how to get over a relationship in less than a week, you have to be willing to let this relationship go. Once you're ready, it's not so hard. Although it usually takes over 7 days to completely rid yourself of that "it's - over" syndrome, you'll be surprised to learn that you don't have to waste a week moping and dragging yourself down. This article is generally more useful for shorter relationships - marriages or more serious relationships can be harder to let go of in such short time. However, seven days following this article will help you on your way to feeling better and getting over your ex.

Steps

1. Use the first day to cry it out, and release your feelings. This is the best thing to do, to vent out whatever you feel and just have some alone time. Don't suppress any emotions - confront the things upsetting and angering you and release them, whether it be by crying, screaming into a pillow, or writing it all down.
   
2. Use your next day to talk it through, and sort things out. Talk to a friend or someone trusted about what you thought about your ex, but think more about why you broke up. Talking to someone else means there's someone to verbalize your issues with, rather than trying to cope with everything on your own. Spend the day trying to sort things out - remind yourself why you can deal without this relationship and list ways to help you start moving on. This day is for clearing your head and setting yourself a clear sketch of your future without your ex.
   
3. On the third day, get rid of any possessions your ex gave you. You can keep them if you think they are beneficiary or they bring good memories, but only look at it as a token of friendship, not of your relationship. If they bring bad memories, then throw it out or dispose of it in any way you desire. Don't hang things from your ex all over your room. It shows that you are still obssessed and really into your ex, and anyway, it's just not healthy.
   
4. Nearing the end of the week, use this day for relaxing and enjoyment. Going out with a friend is a good idea, so they can comfort you and make sure you don't get depressed. Make sure you don't go somewhere that will bring memories of your ex. If you opt to spend the day alone instead, make sure you keep your mind off your ex and firmly on you. Pamper yourself, spend time relaxing, or go out and do something you enjoy to lift your spirits.
   
5. On the fifth day, focus on yourself. Don't let yourself mope, but rather, spend some time re-working your goals and values and reminding yourself of who you are. Brush up on your independency skills and do whatever you can to make yourself strong.
   
6. Relax over the next two days. Essentially, you've done all the hard work. But use the extra two days to really stop thinking about your ex, or rather, sort it all out with yourself. Do things to make you happier and healthier and prepare yourself to properly move on.
   

Tips

• Act in a respectable manner, always - don't lose your dignity.
  
• Friendship and loving family members are always a good support system after a hard breakup.
  
• Force yourself not to mope or be depressed - let yourself be sad but don't sink into a trap.
  
• Particularly after a very serious or long relationship, you may be left unsure of who you are, and what your true goals are, now that you're single. Spend a lot of time focusing on that aspect of yourself, as it will make you feel more focused and independent.
  
• Remember you are still worthy of love and appreciation. You are capable of being loved and loving others.
  
• When releasing your feelings try to avoid self-injury. I do not condone or praise such actions, I simply ask that you think twice. Because there are so many better outlets that won't leave such permanent and damaging scars mentally, spiritually, and physically.
  
• Through meditation you can get over someone in a matter of 2-3 days minimum, but this works best for short, quick relationships. Using the meditation method for... say, a 2 year relationship wouldn't be healthy.
  

Warnings

• You might regret what you did.
  
• Not everybody is ready in one week to get through this routine, this is just a guide on how to get on the road to recovery.
  
• Never go out on a date with someone else right after a relationship just as a distraction - it's selfish and in the long term, it won't help you much.
  

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Break up--Deal strongly

How to Break Up

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Ending a relationship is one of the hardest things you can do, it breaks your heart inside, and your soon to be ex-partner. Sure, you have your reasons to break up with them, but how come it is still so hard? Because we don't want to break their hearts...

Steps

1. Think about why you are breaking up with this person. If you are simply upset with your partner, you should consider talking about what upset you and focus on resolving it, rather than ending the relationship. But if this same issue has already been discussed, yet nothing changes and you keep feeling unsatisfied, hurt, or betrayed, then breaking up might be the only way to end the pattern. Your partner will ask you why you want out, and you should be prepared with answers. Before having "the talk" that ends the relationship, do your best to articulate the reasons you are breaking up. If you have trouble remembering examples during emotional discussions or arguments, write your reasons down in advance. It may help to talk this over with someone you trust, or with a counselor.
   
2. Plan out how long you are willing to spend breaking up. The actual conversation in which you break up with this person can last a lot longer than it should, especially if your partner is devastated or completely surprised by your decision. It'll be much easier for you to stick to your guns if the conversation doesn't drag out. Expect to spend at least one hour breaking up, and longer if the relationship lasted a year or more. You may even want to arrange an appointment with a friend in a neutral location so that you can say "I'm supposed to meet John/Jane at the restaurant in fifteen minutes, so I have to go now."
   
3. Break up in person. It is easier to break up with someone if you don't have to look the person in the eye, but it can also be interpreted as cruel and cowardly. Unless you are a long distance away and choose not to wait until you see the person again, don't break up by phone, e-mail, or through an instant messenger system. And don't even think about breaking up with someone by pulling a disappearing act, even if it's just by suddenly eliminating contact with the person. The lack of closure can be psychologically damaging.
   
   • If you don't live together, break the news at his/her home and in private. They'll want to feel safe enough to respond emotionally--no one wants to be broken up with in public or near family and friends, and risk bursting into tears, or be forced to bottle up all those emotions. While you can break up with them at your place, making someone go home after getting news like that will be difficult, and could make them more bitter. If you are at your partner's home, you can leave after you feel you've made your decision clear.
     
   • If you live together, breaking-up will be particularly problematic and stressful; you should have a place where you can stay until the person you've broken up with digests the big change. You can either move all of your stuff while they're not home and then break up when they come home and notice, or break up and leave with some of your things with the intention to come back when things have calmed down to get the rest of your belongings. Either way will be very difficult for the other person, but only you know what's best for your situation.
     
   
   
4. Break up calmly. If you say the dreaded words "We need to talk", your partner will immediately know what's going on, and that's not a bad thing. You don't want to blurt out "We need to break up" out of the blue, or worse, when you're in an argument. You need to approach the whole thing calmly and peacefully, with a sense of resolution. Sit down with your partner and let him or her know that you've decided to end the relationship.
   
5. Expect any or all of the following reactions.
   
   • Questioning -- He or she will want to know why, and whether there was anything he or she could have done to prevent the breakup. Answer the questions as honestly as possible.
     
   • Crying -- The other person will likely be upset, and it will show. You can comfort him or her, but don't allow yourself to be manipulated into changing your decision.
     
   • Arguing -- He or she may dispute anything you've said during the breakup, including examples you used in your reasons for breaking up. Don't get dragged into a fight, and don't split hairs. Let your partner know that arguing isn't going to change your decision.
     
   • Bargaining or Begging -- He or she may offer to change, or to do things differently in order to preserve the relationship. If the person didn't change when you've discussed your problems in the past, it is too late to expect him or her to truly change now.
     
   • Lashing out -- Whether it's as simple as saying "You'll never find anyone as good as me" or as scary as saying "I'll make you regret this", he or she is usually just trying to make himself or herself feel better. Threats of physical harm, however, are serious and should not be ignored. If you feel that your safety is at risk, stay calm and leave quickly.
     
   
   
6. Distance yourself. It'll be difficult, but don't call them, don't go places where you know they frequent, and make yourself scarce. Take the time to reflect on your situation and learn more about yourself. Do all the things you've ever wanted to do, that you wouldn't have done if you were still with this person. Now is the perfect time to focus on those missed opportunities. Your ex may try to get in touch, but wait a while (some people suggest six months) before resuming contact, if at all. You felt close to this person at one point in your life, and you will probably always have a soft spot for him or her, but it's time for both of you to move on.
   
7. Realize that breaking up is just a normal part of life. Yes, breaking up is difficult - but like it or not, this is a normal part of teenage and adult life, and as much as it is painful, it is normal. Sometimes you will be the dumper, sometimes you might be the dumpee. We all have heartbreak; it hurts- but we all survive it, and you (and your ex) will too.
   

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Tips

• If you are sure you want to break up with somebody, it is best done sooner rather than later. However, if your partner has had a particularly bad day already, you may want to consider waiting for a better moment. Breaking up with them when they are already down will make the break-up much harder for both of you.
  
• While honesty is the best policy, you may want to focus on the fundamental issues destroying the relationship and not nitpick on the little annoyances that drive you mad. Those annoyances are usually symptoms of the underlying problems--we're far more likely to get annoyed, irritable, and frustrated when we know the relationship isn't working out.
  

Warnings

• Never break up in the heat of the moment. If the relationship is already broken beyond repair, that won't change once the argument is over and the anger has passed. Break up with you're both calm and can talk it over peacefully. That's when you have the best chance of closure.
  
• Never threaten that you will break up with your partner. If you have problems or concerns, work through them or break up. Threats will only make a relationship worse and their impact tends to diminish with repeated use.
  
• Never use e-mail to end a relationship. E-mail might be perceived as a "non-confrontational" way to break up but it adds insult to what will likely be injury for the other party. An e-mail breakup also speaks poorly about the character of one who uses it for such a delicate task.
  

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Dating

How to Date

It can be difficult to strike a good balance when dating. How do you appear interested without coming off as desperate or needy? How do you get to know someone without being nosy or rude? And how do you figure out how a person feels about you--or tell them how you feel about them--without either of you feeling uncomfortable? Dating is a tricky business, but here are some guidelines that'll keep you in the mix.

STEPS

1. Define your expectations. Why are you dating? What are you looking for? Do you want a lifetime commitment, or do you want to live completely in the moment? Whether or not you're seeking a commitment can make a difference in how you approach dating. If you're dating for fun and companionship, what matters most is how well you get along, right off the bat. If you're seeking a partner, you should be more willing to overlook initial shyness and awkwardness so that you can get to know a person over more than one date. Most of us are looking for a mixture of fun and commitment, but it's important to know where you stand so that you can figure out if your date is on the same page. Don't go out looking for a one-nighter.
2. Put yourself out there. You don't have to hit the bars or the clubs to meet new people (although you can, if that's something you enjoy doing anyway). Pursue interests and activities that mean a lot to you. The Internet has made this a whole lot easier. Check forums, listings, classifieds, and Internet mailing lists (known as "listservs") for local events or meetings that are likely to attract people with similar interests or passions. When you're there, be bold. If approaching someone you're interested in isn't really your style, you can still be bold by making yourself look approachable and inviting. Make eye contact, smile, raise your eyebrows--make a connection from across the room.
3. Be selective. Don't just date anyone who shows an inkling of interest in you. Despite what everyone says about not judging a book by its cover, people who are more discriminating tend to be seen as more desirable^[1] probably because having standards shows that you value yourself and aren't going for a date with whoever crosses your path. At the same time, you don't want to be too selective--if you keep holding out for the perfect person, you're guaranteed to miss out. If you're in a room full of people with similar interests, you should be able to pick out one or two people who you'd like to date--not 10, not 0. Make it a point to not leave the event without showing interest and making a connection with a few people. Trading phone numbers and meeting in person is often a sign that a person desires an actual relationship.
   
   
   • If someone asks you on a date and you're not interested, avoid making excuses like "I'm busy" or "I'm not ready to date right now." They'll eventually see that you're only too busy for them, and they're the only one you're not ready to date. This can be more hurtful and insulting than just saying "no". Handle it gracefully. Smile and say "No thanks, but I appreciate the offer" and change the subject to ease any discomfort.
4. 
   Make a good first impression. You want this person to enjoy the date, but you also want them to enjoy you as an individual, so be considerate and charming without looking or acting like someone you're definitely not. People who do a very good job molding their behavior to other people's expectations actually tend to have less satisfying relationships.^[2] It's certainly possible--and beneficial for both you and your date--to make someone feel at ease without sacrificing your identity. Let them discover who you are (and don't swing to the other extreme, babbling about your life story and overwhelming them with too much information).
   
   
   • Have good manners. Turn off your phone (the only reason you should be checking or answering your phone is if you're a doctor). Don't act uninterested or frown. Gazing off into space while s/he is eating/talking isn't good either, and makes it look like you want to get out as soon as possible. Concentrate on your date; don't check out anyone else, no matter how slick you think you might be about it.
   • Don't talk about past relationships. This is a no-no and a sure turn-off. You will only project the impression that you are unable to let go. If your partner asks about your last relationship, just tell them that you realized the two of you weren't as compatible as you initially thought, so you have moved on to look for someone with whom to discover greater mutual happiness. Keep it brief and don't ask about their ex.
5. Be interested and interesting. Don’t exaggerate or boast about your credentials, successes, etc. Just tell them what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what you want to leap out of bed to pursue. Ask them what they really love in life and what gets them excited. Feel the change in energy during this conversation and revel in it.
   
   
   • Don't forget to add a spark of humor to your conversations. Humor can create a stronger bond of friendship between you two. It is also great to crack romantic jokes, as it brings up the possibility of what might happen between the two of you.
   • Be positive. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Don't show up for your date complaining about the traffic, your boss, or your job. If you must whine, whine a little during dinner and end that very short whine with a "glad I'm here with you now!" remark.
6. Avoid being smothering or obsessive. Never call, e-mail or text message more than once a day unless they reply. Continue with other activities and let them know you've got a life beyond dating. At the same time, don't get carried away with the "hard to get" act--the idea is to overcome any feeling that you "need" to call them, or you "need" to see them again, or you "need" this to work out. The difference between "needing" and "wanting" is patience.
   
   
   • Don't plan another date too quickly. Your partner (and you) need time to assess your feelings about the date and prepare to accept another one. Within a short time after (1-7 days) call your partner and express your feelings about where to go next in the relationship (like one date at a time, or more dating, or less, or more casual, or more formal, or to cut it off, become friends, or what have you...).
7. 
   Be honest. If you are not ready to be in a committed relationship, let them know straight away so that you do not give them false hope. If you're just not interested in a relationship with them anymore, tell them so. Don't lead them on. Explain that you just don't see it going anywhere. Don't say that you want to be friends unless you actually want to be friends and spend time with this person on a regular basis. If you are interested in seeing this person more often, honesty is still a critical ingredient to a healthy relationship!

TIPS

• Think about what makes someone come home from a first date and tell their friends, "Wow, my date was awesome! I had such a great time getting to know this person and can’t wait to see them again." Things that make a date truly memorable are often found in the mental more than the physical connections.
• Although this is not always possible, try to become friends with the person in group situations before moving into one-on-one dating. This will help eliminate a lot of the awkwardness associated with first dates and give you a better sense of compatibility without any real commitment.
• Male relatives and friends can be a great source for dating tips. Often times, their tips will involve chivalry, e.g., being a gentleman.
• Although being a gentleman is good, do not overdo it. It will likely creep out your date.
• Try phrasing the 'date' in a different context so that it reduces the expectations from the encounter. "Do you want to go and hang out at 'x bar' and have a drink." If it is not going well you have saved yourself a meal and two more hours with someone who isn't compatible, and if it is going well you can move on to dinner.
• When you've decided on where your going on a date, its important to let a close friend or family member know where you've gone on your date. This is for you own safety. Additionally make sure you stick to the plans you've made and told your close friend!
• Avoid disclosing personal information such as your finances, or specific details about where you live until you feel comfortable

• REMEMBER
  • Be safe, and be careful; if you're uncomfortable with your partner, politely end the date without feigning excuses. Being firm, polite, and honest in an uncomfortable situation is usually the best way to end a date gone awry.
  • Know when it's time to be serious with your partner and when to be humorous. No one likes her date to be joking around in a serious atmosphere.
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